Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend.
—Sarah Ban Breathnach
I’d like you to consider the words in the title of this message as two primary drivers from which we operate. What primarily drives you in life? Is it love generated from a place of abundance? Or is it fear spawned from an apprehension that resource and possibility are scarce and so you must grab what little you can?
Your answer to this fundamental question will affect everything in your life…
…and cause you to focus on and hear things in different ways. For instance, if you are more inclined to see the world through a scarcity belief system you’ll of necessity find evidence to support your conviction even when there are opposing facts. When things are going well there will be a background “yea, but” conversation going on. At the very least there will be a nagging apprehension which will undermine confidence.
On the other hand, if you have embraced abundance as a belief system, meaning there is always enough, the cautious judiciousness of portioning out anything will not rule your every move. There will be a confidence, a trust, and graciousness otherwise absent.
At some bottom-line type of way scarcity is fear driven while abundance is love driven. Fear and scarcity emanate from the father of lies while love and abundance is the very nature of our God. Buying into the lie leads us to try to take control and hoard instead of resting in God’s provision and creative nature.
What would a life effort driven by scarcity and fear look like? One of the first things that come to mind for me as I consider this has to do with how in this mindset I’d have to try to controlboth situations and people. If I’m not enough, and there’s not enough, and things are always on the verge of falling apart then I will have to reduce things and people down to something manageable. In order to allay my fear I’ll need to try to control the outcome and rely on tactics to force or cajole. I will naturally move into a judgment mindset, setting my sights on someone, or something about someone, where I have determined I have it more together than they do and so engage them from that perspective. Why? Because the fear can be somewhat dissipated when I engage people in a sphere I consider myself to be more together or better.
In the scarcity and fear mindset you’ll doubt what you have to offer and therefore not risk. And enrollment always involves risk: venturing into unfamiliar territory, going beyond your limiting belief system, willing to get into difficult conversations, and taking initiative to venture into areas that may be complicated.
In the abundance and love mindset you’ll be confident you are God’s representation of love to the people you are connected to. You’ll believe you have something to contribute and whatever lack you have can be supplied by your Source. You’ll stand assured that where you do miss it there is plenty of grace available to cover. Grace is another facet of love in action. You’ll be more motivated for someone’s good than you are for what you stand to lose, or how you may appear to them, or doing it wrong, or losing control.
When it’s all said and done when I live in the security of abundance and love life becomes a never-ending adventure, a romance where I’ll be looking to give and contribute to and invest in others. Life becomes about seeking opportunities to bless.
It’s pretty obvious which “driver” will fuel us towards a life of fulfillment, and the wonderful thing is that we have a choice regarding what we’ll allow to drive us. After all, love is a choice, believing God will provide is a choice, believing you are valuable is a choice and believing you have something to give is a choice. “Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve” (Josh. 24:15) and then go out and give yourselves in love.